Tuesday, August 14, 2012 at 4:05 AM
Edited Tuesday, August 14, 2012 at 4:49 AM
stel, i get what you're saying. the scenario you described is some kind of dysfunctional, co-dependent suckfest.
i'm talking about two people who care about each other and have each other's back.
i see plenty of relationships where the husband or the wife has to ask their spouse permission to do something. kill me now.
it's quite different to have two independent people who care about each other and take each other into consideration when making decisions.
ie> i almost never eat the same dinner as my husband. i eat what i like when i'm hungry and he does the same. if i'm all snuggled up and comfy on the couch, i'll ask him to fetch something for me and he's happy to do it. i do the same for him.
i wanted to go on a trip and he didn't, so i went and he didn't. i have to say that he never goes anywhere without me, but that's his choice.
i can't be with someone who is needy or someone who can't make a move without my approval. it makes me want to punch them in the face. conversely, i can't be with someone who needs to be apprised of my every step.
when a relationship is based on real love as opposed to emotional dependence, you have the comforting feeling that there is always someone in your corner looking out for your best interests without suffocating you or sucking the life out of you.
edit: btw, zt was right. whenever we climax, we shout out "23 ski-doo!"—pookie