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Friday, March 7, 2008 at 11:43 PM This friend I haven't spoken to in over two years just emailed me and said she was going to be in town. I didn't email her back for a few days. I'm still kind of pissed at her because she was very critical of me, but didn't seem to notice any of her own flaws. I just emailed her back and said that I was glad she was doing well and that she could give me a call if she'd like to talk more. I didn't agree to meet with her. I hope I don't regret this. There's many things I like about her, but if she's going to be the same judgmental bitch that never shuts her damn mouth, then there will be no reconciliation! I think I wrote her back mostly because we were high school friends and we have the same circle of friends, and I would kind of like it to be the way it used to be, without everyone worrying about what they say and whose side they should be on or if they should even pick a side. I hope everything turns out okay. Just felt like sharing my thoughts. Respond if you like... —acm323 |
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Friday, March 7, 2008 at 11:53 PM I believe people don't change. Even though I'm a different person than I was when I first came on here four years ago, I can still be pretty self-centered and oblivious to how other people react to me on here. I've changed a little and can admit I was wrong for acting the way I did NOW, but it's very hard to change the way you look at the world in a certain way. But if she calls you then try to feel her out on the phone, and see if you can tell if she's different or not. Why don't you tell her that you didn't like her criticizing you and see what she says? I'm betting she won't remember. If you want to start anew with her then go ahead, but be prepared to be disappointed by her. —John Lennon |
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Saturday, March 8, 2008 at 12:05 AM I just realized the main difference between acm posting this thread and the old threads I used to post is she's actually asking for help, NOT just saying (like I used to) "look at my problems, look what I'm doing, look at ME!" —John Lennon |
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Saturday, March 8, 2008 at 12:39 AM acn--my wife just went through this. She had a friend who didn't like me (shocking I know) and it was so clear to everyone who was aware of the situation but the friend wouldn't admit the issue. They're talking again now, but only after the friend admitted what was up. It took 3 years. I don't know how you girls do this, but it seems like if your friend hasn't been contrite in even a way that takes the blame off her like "yeah, I was such a flaming fucking she-bitch, but I was so stressed out back then," then it's not even close to time to go through discomfort. I have a ton of friends. If one of them started acting up it would be no-callsville pronto because there are plenty of other great people in the world more deserving of the time. —bguirk |
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Saturday, March 8, 2008 at 12:45 AM Yeah... I agree bguirk. You have to be able to look in the mirror and see your own flaws. I know I can be a pain in the ass. But I took responsibility for my behavior and I changed an aspect of my behavior that was pissing my friends off. If she still thinks that she is completley blameless when it comes to the things we fought about...then I don't think a reconciliation is possible. —acm323 |
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Saturday, March 8, 2008 at 6:00 AM
Edited Saturday, March 8, 2008 at 6:12 AM I would kind of like it to be the way it used to be Not possible, you're only setting yourself up for further let down. Mainly because you think like this: if she's going to be the same judgmental bitch that never shuts her damn mouth, then there will be no reconciliation! (And also, this makes you sound pretty judgmental of her - if you can't rise above it, it's not fair to expect her to.) You can either accept who she is or not, but it's really up to you to make the attitude adjustment. On a larger note, you seem to have a lot of drama. Which means you create the drama. Which means the problem is you. Sometimes you seem like the female Drake. Uh, no offense. —Beat It! |
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Saturday, March 8, 2008 at 7:43 AM Sometimes you seem like the female Drake. Scratch that part. I hadn't had my morning caffeine and was cranky form being woken up at 7:30. —Beat It! |
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Saturday, March 8, 2008 at 10:19 AM I second it whether you stand by it or not. —chix0r |
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Saturday, March 8, 2008 at 10:35 AM
Edited Saturday, March 8, 2008 at 10:36 AM I know I can be a pain in the ass. But I took responsibility for my behavior and I changed an aspect of my behavior that was pissing my friends off. If she still thinks that she is completley blameless when it comes to the things we fought about...then I don't think a reconciliation is possible. agree... when something bother you THAT much, to the point where good friends arent speaking to each other, then a change is necessary. on he other hand, you could know, and accept that this is just an aspect of that persons personality. I have friends that do shit I hate, but I just brush it off and say to myself, "ah, thats just matt being gay again." Theres going to be very few people on this planet with whom you agree on everything all the time and whom you think their personality has no flaws. even the people you MARRY arent perfect and do shit that pisses you off. —whoisnumbaone |
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Saturday, March 8, 2008 at 12:43 PM I believe people don't change [rolls eyes] I just realized the main difference between acm posting this thread and the old threads I used to post is she's actually asking for help, NOT just saying (like I used to) "look at my problems, look what I'm doing, look at ME!" Not quite (but never mind that now). ... as for the thread, I just want to echo what Beat It! said about the drama. If this is actually a big deal then at some level you like it (at the very least, it's comfortable for you). When the same sort of stuff keeps happening with different people, at some point you have to realize that you're the common factor in the equation, figure out what you're doing that keeps landing you in those situations and then do something about that. —anobody |
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Saturday, March 8, 2008 at 5:40 PM
Edited Saturday, March 8, 2008 at 5:44 PM I second it whether you stand by it or not. — chix0r Well I don't think she's the female equivalent (yet), that's an extreme that would require about twenty more posts of this nature. I should have said she's in danger of becoming the female Drake. She's not in the ballpark, but she's definitely nearing the parking lot. EDIT:
Incidentally, I totally skipped pass most of this thread and missed this:
I just realized the main difference between acm posting this thread and the old threads I used to post is she's actually asking for help, NOT just saying (like I used to) "look at my problems, look what I'm doing, look at ME!" — John Lennon For the record, my comparing her to him had nothing to do with him bringing it up first. I only realized it after reading anobody's response. —Beat It! |
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Saturday, March 8, 2008 at 8:39 PM I hate to even admit this...I used to be a little like Drake. I used to put myself down a lot and feel sorry for myself all the time. I wouldn't do it on the internet though. I usually did it around my family. I don't do that anymore. That's just lame. :-) —acm323 |
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Saturday, March 8, 2008 at 9:24 PM I don't put myself down or feel sorry for myself any more, either. —John Lennon |
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Saturday, March 8, 2008 at 9:49 PM I don't put myself down or feel sorry for myself any more, either. —John Lennon FUCK YOUR ANTI-COLORADO BLUE JEANS. —ZT Spice |
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Saturday, March 8, 2008 at 10:00 PM i knew you'd turn on him. —bguirk |
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Saturday, March 8, 2008 at 10:43 PM Aye on hymn yew new turned. —bguirk |
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Saturday, March 8, 2008 at 10:47 PM YEWWWWWWWWW CRANK DAT SOLJA BOY —foob2011 |
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