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Thursday, March 6, 2008 at 6:38 PM I work in a place with very little office politics, yet today I heard some people talking shit about me behind my back. I am very angry, but yelling is not an option. Reprisal seems unlikely and is at odds with my values. Still I have feelings of anger, betrayal, spite, etc. I would appreciate everyone's thoughts on things I can do to handle these feelings. I do not want to just repress them and pretend everything's OK. Consider the fact that I'm posting this on TLC as evidence of how confused I am. —shakrat |
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Thursday, March 6, 2008 at 6:52 PM What did they say? Was the stuff they were saying true? Were they talking about something you told someone in confidence? I talk shit about some of my coworkers. One of my coworkers has a mouth full of rotting teeth and terrible hygeine. If she overheard me talking about her I wouldn't really care...because everything I said was true! Hope this helps. —acm323 |
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Thursday, March 6, 2008 at 7:04 PM I wouldn't take it personally. I'm a live and let live type of guy. Usually it's not worth the energy to get angry over something. —abusive a-hole |
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Thursday, March 6, 2008 at 7:10 PM adam would tell callers that the best way to get even was to be successful and have a good life. let the haters wallow in their hate, and see what it gets them. unless, it's justified. then maybe you should ask yourself if there is in fact room for improvement. —plurry |
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Thursday, March 6, 2008 at 7:31 PM Good questions, acm: They were talking about a small thing that I fucked up. It is true that I fucked it up. After I overheard this stuff I went to the main person involved and politely told her that if she had something to say she should say it to me. I'm still angry though. —shakrat |
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Thursday, March 6, 2008 at 7:36 PM There is definitely room for improvement, and I acknowledged that to her. I'm just pissed 'cause this is something she would never bring up with me to me face, so she's not exactly helping the situation. Maybe it's unfounded anger and they were justified in bitching. Still, I don't feel I can trust these people anymore. —shakrat |
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Thursday, March 6, 2008 at 7:36 PM alternatively, purchase a grenade launcher and just go to town on the entire building. —Yog-Laithoth |
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Thursday, March 6, 2008 at 7:42 PM You can't trust them. I had a similar situation happen last week. I came very close to accepting the consequences and doing something very bad. But I didn't. The best thing you can do is smile to their face make like everything is good, and just remember who/what they are. And if you get a chance to get dirt on them, then do it, and save it for a rainy day. That's what I do/did, and have at my disposal now. —Masteel |
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Thursday, March 6, 2008 at 7:57 PM I didn't know you could fuck up cleaning toilets. —Mayonnaise |
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Thursday, March 6, 2008 at 8:08 PM Isn't it hard to run away from cancer? —derekho |
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Thursday, March 6, 2008 at 8:29 PM
Edited Thursday, March 6, 2008 at 8:30 PM They were talking about a small thing that I fucked up. It is true that I fucked it up. After I overheard this stuff I went to the main person involved and politely told her that if she had something to say she should say it to me. I'm still angry though. —shakrat I've been thinking about posting something almost exactly like this for the last... three months. If it's anything like what I'm going through, yeah, it sucks. Here's some of the things I've done.... - I go over the Four Stabilizing Questions from GROW.
- I go over the Eight Verses for Training The Mind, remembering what the Dalai Lama said when I first heard him talk about them -- that you also need to take action to prevent them from harming you again.
- I've been trying not to "take it personally," remembering that people sometimes gossip because of their own insecurities, that in the long-run rejection is usually protection, and that the best revenge is to live a good life.
- I practice, though not very often, metta meditation (mp3).
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Thursday, March 6, 2008 at 8:30 PM "when you ________, it made me feel ________" —mandee |
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shakrat |
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Thursday, March 6, 2008 at 8:34 PM "when you gossiped like a little bitch, it made me feel like punching you in the fucking face" How's that? And thanks for the links ZT! —shakrat |
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anfernee |
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Thursday, March 6, 2008 at 9:30 PM Replace beer with "gasoline", for longer-lasting effects. —anfernee |
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plurry |
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Thursday, March 6, 2008 at 10:52 PM ^ interesting. a couple tabs of E is always an option. you'll go from wanting to kill them to wanting to hug them. —plurry |
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ZT Spice |
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Thursday, March 6, 2008 at 11:27 PM a couple tabs of E is always an option. you'll go from wanting to kill them to wanting to hug them. —plurry For a few hours, at the cost of losing brain function. —ZT Spice |
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Thursday, March 6, 2008 at 11:31 PM I want to know what kind of job shakrat does. Restaurant? —John Lennon |
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ZT Spice |
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Thursday, March 6, 2008 at 11:34 PM If that was true, he'd probably be getting laid a lot and this wouldn't be a problem. —ZT Spice |
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Friday, March 7, 2008 at 5:25 AM ZT--there is a hot girl standing in line in "the uniform." She's also hot. Should I take my ring off and go talk to her? —bguirk |
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Friday, March 7, 2008 at 5:56 AM
Edited Friday, March 7, 2008 at 5:56 AM I want to know what kind of job shakrat does. Restaurant?-- John Lennon I am a high school administrator at a non-traditional school. My primary responsibility is for "operations," which basically means I'm the money man. I know, right? —shakrat |
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Friday, March 7, 2008 at 9:10 AM "non-traditional school"? Is that like an alternative school for bad kids or an alternative school for smart kids? —John Lennon |
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shakrat |
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Friday, March 7, 2008 at 9:21 AM Bad kids. (Of course they're not permanently bad.) —shakrat |
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Friday, March 7, 2008 at 11:36 AM
Edited Friday, March 7, 2008 at 11:37 AM If that was true, he'd probably be getting laid a lot and this wouldn't be a problem. — ZT Spice This only applies to restaurant managers and bartenders. Wait and kitchen staff positions are hit or miss. Bussers and dishwashers are out of luck. —Beat It! |
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Friday, March 7, 2008 at 12:34 PM damn waitresses never shared their tips when I washed dishes/bussed for a few weeks. bitches. —bguirk |
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Friday, March 7, 2008 at 2:00 PM The period in my life when I got the most tail was when I was bartending.
Its all about bartending 1 or 2 nights a week, and then going BACK to the bar on your off nights. That way your free to talk to the specific chicks your trying to bang, and the bartender on duty hooks you up for free all night, so buying chicks drinks is pretty much free. I miss bartending actually. I think id do it agin if I could, even If i had tons of money and didnt need the tips.
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Beat It! |
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Friday, March 7, 2008 at 2:11 PM
Edited Friday, March 7, 2008 at 2:11 PM I would bartend again if I didn't have to open (and do all the crappy set up that goes with it) or close (and have to all the crappy cleaning at the end of the night. ) Though I did get tired of babysitting drunks and being considered somewhat responsible legally for their actions after leaving the bar (though I never actually had anything like that happen - I did get to Baker Act a lady). I always had more fun working the service bar and just making drinks and talking with the servers. —Beat It! |
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Friday, March 7, 2008 at 2:14 PM Talk to the person that was talking shit about you. Tell him/her how you feel.
That's what Barney and Big Bird say!
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Friday, March 7, 2008 at 3:04 PM i'm thinking about working at a pub this summer when i move to london. —mandee |
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Friday, March 7, 2008 at 3:06 PM bartenders have the ultimate pick-up line: "what can i getcha?" —airking32 |
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Friday, March 7, 2008 at 3:16 PM i'm thinking about working at a pub this summer when i move to london. —mandee really? I was just sitting here thinking about the holocaust. —bguirk |
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Friday, March 7, 2008 at 3:26 PM Moving to London sounds like a smart move, since all the damn jobs for new graduates have decreased. —adams_babymomma |
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Friday, March 7, 2008 at 4:16 PM it's just for the summer. i haven't graduated yet. i'm bored, guys. one of my roommates is gone for the weekend, another is out with her parents, and the other is sick, so i'm sitting with her and watching home alone. i'm going to experiment with all of my prescriptions. —mandee |
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Jaffa Cakes |
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Friday, March 7, 2008 at 4:20 PM How about experimenting with the traps from Home Alone? It seems slightly less dangerous. —Jaffa Cakes |
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Friday, March 7, 2008 at 4:22 PM I vote experiment with both. Wiring a T.V. to a doorknob while on percocet can't possibly go wrong. —TortillaFactory |
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Friday, March 7, 2008 at 4:23 PM
Edited Friday, March 7, 2008 at 4:24 PM we built a really sweet fort two weekends ago before our other 2 roommates got back, but we had to take it down because they like things to be neat. maybe i'll figure out how to zip line to the house across the street. or i'll just drop buckets of paint on people's heads. —mandee |
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Friday, March 7, 2008 at 5:30 PM
Edited Friday, March 7, 2008 at 6:00 PM i was told that crushing up wellbutrin and snorting/eating it has an almost cocaine-like effect, so i've done that. i tried to snort it, but it was so incredibly painful that i could only do one line. i mixed the rest up with pudding and ate it. my mouth is completely numb and my ear hurts so far. i just want to watch mulan —mandee |
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John Lennon |
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Friday, March 7, 2008 at 7:36 PM Mandee, can't you just get high or drunk? Why up the ante with snorting? Anyways, be careful.
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Friday, March 7, 2008 at 7:47 PM Why up the ante with snorting? d00d - how could you not get it? It's just so much more... more... eh... to snort. Come on - get with the program. —anobody |
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Friday, March 7, 2008 at 8:22 PM since all the damn jobs for new graduates have decreased. try not to look at things this way--the macro economy barely cares about you. —bguirk |
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