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Sexy with a Disability

  

ZT-In-Zapruder-Film

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Monday, May 14, 2007 at 10:08 AM

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After college, my luck improved. For a few tumultuous passionate months, I was sleeping with a man who can only be described as a hottie, and who told me, point-blank (after he'd already gotten some!), "You are really sexy." It was such a Harlequin moment, but I know he meant it.

One time, I was driving home from his place, listening to "Love Line." A woman was talking about being disabled. "I can't get laid to save my life!" she told Dr. Drew. I felt for her, thought about how much I could relate. And then I realized I was going home after getting laid.

Why wasn't I unfuckable then? I was in denial. About being disabled. I never thought of myself that way. Dry dating spells had nothing to do with the way my fingers or toes or elbows looked. I just needed to lose a few pounds, needed to get out and meet more guys. I am a decent conversationalist, I have led an interesting life, and I have an interesting job. And there was never much wrong with my legs, or my hair, or my skin. Woo them with the good things, I figured, and ignore the bad.

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ZT-In-Zapruder-Film

  

ZT-In-Zapruder-Film

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Monday, May 14, 2007 at 10:15 AM

Click on that link and read all of this article, it's worth it.

It's still strange to me how women think about relationships, even this disabled ones.

Like "fuck me shoes?" I've never looked at a woman's shoes and been like "ohh, those make me want to fuck her." Maybe guys with a foot fetish... but still...

In fact some of the fancy shoes are kind of a turn off. Especially the ones that come to a sharp point centered at the end. Why do you want us to think that your feet are shaped like spears?

ZT-In-Zapruder-Film

  

TortillaFactory

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Monday, May 14, 2007 at 10:44 AM

For the same reason we want you to think we have long bloody claws.

In other words, I don't know.

TortillaFactory

  

pookie

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Monday, May 14, 2007 at 12:04 PM

Isaac Mizrahi says it's a gay guy thing. They love toe cleavage. Of course, I would imagine that guys in general like to see a chick in pretty shoes rather than earth shoes. High heels make the legs and butt look better because of the way it alters your stance. Flat shoes make the calves look bigger and sometimes gives a cankle appearance. Personally, I'm barefoot at home, I wear flip flops from April through September, and Uggs from October through March. I only wear high heels for certain occasions. Of course, I do wear sneakers for more rigorous needs, and then I wear New Balance.

pookie

  

ZT-In-Zapruder-Film

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Monday, May 14, 2007 at 12:37 PM

For the same reason we want you to think we have long bloody claws. —TortillaFactory

I do like reasonably long nails, because I like to have my back scratched.

Isaac Mizrahi says it's a gay guy thing. They love toe cleavage. Of course, I would imagine that guys in general like to see a chick in pretty shoes rather than earth shoes. High heels make the legs and butt look better because of the way it alters your stance. Flat shoes make the calves look bigger and sometimes gives a cankle appearance. Personally, I'm barefoot at home, I wear flip flops from April through September, and Uggs from October through March. I only wear high heels for certain occasions. Of course, I do wear sneakers for more rigorous needs, and then I wear New Balance. —pookie

I don't know, I guess heels are cool. I don't know if I can say that I think girl's bodies look better in them as much as they just kind of look "fancy."

Flip-flops are awesome.

ZT-In-Zapruder-Film

  

anobody

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Monday, May 14, 2007 at 3:54 PM

It's still strange to me how women think about relationships

One thing like that that's been bugging me lately is Smile by Lily Allen.

"But you were fucking that girl next door
What'cha do that for? (What'cha do that for?)"

Gee - I wonder.

"Now you're calling me up on the phone
So you can have a little whine and a moan

And it's only because you are feeling alone"

It certainly couldn't because he's just horny and thinks he has a shot at getting laid.

Like "fuck me shoes?" I've never looked at a woman's shoes.

That's not much of an exaggeration for me.

anobody

  

pookie

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Monday, May 14, 2007 at 4:28 PM

1. Never underestimate the influence that "Sex in the City" had/has on insecure women who look to television and celebrities to guide their fashion choices.

2. I'm beginning to think it's true that these same women are the types who do not really dress for men. They dress for other women. I've heard it said and dismissed it because no one that I new was like that, but it seems that this whole "women judging women" thing is truer than I thought. I guess I don't associate with that sort, but it does exist. Hence, some women feel the need to out-do other women regardless of how men view them.

pookie

  

anobody

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Monday, May 14, 2007 at 6:05 PM

This would include my ex-wife.

Eff-tonnes of designer shoes, Ann Taylor crap, thousands of dollars of assorted perfumes, packed closets full of random expensive worthless garbage.

And she'd come right out and say that it was all to impress other chicks and that it didn't matter that I didn't even notice that shit and would have been just as happy (actually happier) if she'd just dress comfortably and not try to be so damn posh.

anobody

  

bguirk

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Monday, May 14, 2007 at 7:15 PM

I love my wife.

bguirk

  

Stryker311

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Monday, May 14, 2007 at 8:23 PM

anobody, this is coming from a man who wears socks with sandals

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plurry

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Monday, May 14, 2007 at 8:34 PM

^ lulz

plurry

  

anobody

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Monday, May 14, 2007 at 9:39 PM

a man who wears socks with sandals

Help me out here - is that a good thing or a bad thing?

anobody

  

ZT-In-Zapruder-Film

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Monday, May 14, 2007 at 9:47 PM

Hmm... I would never do it.

I had a friend that did who owns a house in Estes park now.

ZT-In-Zapruder-Film

  

anobody

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Monday, May 14, 2007 at 9:48 PM

I know lots of Koreans who do it.

I've done it a few times when my feet were particularly funky (fortunately, that tends to be pretty rare).

anobody

  

plurry

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Monday, May 14, 2007 at 10:03 PM

it has to be one of the biggest fashion faux pas.. evar!

plurry

  

anobody

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Monday, May 14, 2007 at 10:04 PM

Even worse than white before Labor Day?

anobody

  

jezebel

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Monday, May 14, 2007 at 10:11 PM

What is Estes Park?

Socks with sandals are gross, don't do it. Plus, you'll get retarded tan lines.

jezebel

  

Stryker311

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Monday, May 14, 2007 at 11:37 PM

literally, gross.

Stryker311

  

rAnCIDsICk@!!!

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Monday, May 14, 2007 at 11:59 PM
Edited Tuesday, May 15, 2007 at 12:03 AM

choncla's (flip flops) on a women is much sexier in my opinion then heels.
Granted heels can make a womens leg look better but that's only if she's wearing
a dress that ecentuates her legs or if she has that sexy business suit look.
But heels make me think of strippers and strippers usually wear shit that you would
wear at the pool which would neccesitate the need for chonclas.

I much prefer a chick with great legs wearing flip flops and some short shorts, not daisy dukes just really cute shorts that make her ass look great and a tank top to show her shoulders and rack. Kinda like the cute college chick or the going to the beach look.
It leaves enough skin to be desired and touched.


Remember ladies dress slutty and we want to sleep with you, look attractive and dress with enough mystery we'll try to strike a conversation with you to get to know you so we can sleep with you.

rAnCIDsICk@!!!

  

pookie

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Tuesday, May 15, 2007 at 2:11 AM

A friend of mine had a workmate who invited her to a picnic. They went hiking and the workmate fell off a cliff and was paralyzed from the neck down. She was a young, attractive girl with a great personality. She met a guy, they got married, she got pregnant and had a healthy baby. Apparently, her innards still functioned properly. He proudly wheeled around his wife and baby and never thought anything of the fact that he had to do everything for them both. All I could think was, what a man, what a man, what a mighty good man.

Conversely, I knew a young couple who were THE HOT COUPLE. Both blond, tan, and very fashionable. One night, they were driving home late from a party and he crashed the car. She went through the windshield and had her face pretty scarred up but she still looked cute. The scars were small and straight and looked like creases more than scars. Naturally, he divorced her because he couldn't be with someone who had facial deformities. Tard. She later married a guy who treats her like a queen.

So I guess it's true that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and there's someone for everyone. But those experiences taught me that I should never marry someone unless my love for him was strong enough that I would happily care for him should he become horribly disfigured and paralyzed and vice versa. That really helped me weed out the blindingly gorgeous guys who would be out the door if I should ever gain weight or become chronically ill. I look back at all the guys I turned down or broke up with and how they turned out, and I have no regrets.

pookie

  

jezebel

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Tuesday, May 15, 2007 at 8:15 AM

I heart you, pookie.

jezebel

  

pookie

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Tuesday, May 15, 2007 at 8:31 AM

^ Right back atcha!

pookie

  

ZT-In-Zapruder-Film

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Tuesday, May 15, 2007 at 10:16 AM

But those experiences taught me that I should never marry someone unless my love for him was strong enough that I would happily care for him should he become horribly disfigured and paralyzed and vice versa. That really helped me weed out the blindingly gorgeous guys who would be out the door if I should ever gain weight or become chronically ill. I look back at all the guys I turned down or broke up with and how they turned out, and I have no regrets. —pookie

That's profound.

ZT-In-Zapruder-Film

  

rAnCIDsICk@!!!

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Tuesday, May 15, 2007 at 11:43 PM

I'd do anything for my wife if something were to happen to her, god forbid.
I see it in her eyes and actions that she would do that for me, hell she has
already. She'd proudly wipe my ass if I broke both my arms,
damn I love her!

rAnCIDsICk@!!!

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