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Friday, January 5, 2007 at 5:44 PM I can't just use a girl the way that people use each other. I can't pump 'em and dump 'em like penny stocks. I'm one of those rare guys that wants a relationship. I know you all think I'm fat and cancerous and all this crap, think of how good you have it. Your parents may beat you, your relationships may be going south, but having a sucky relationship beats not having one. Being secure in having life beats wondering when you're going to die. I am setting a deadline of the end of this month to get a relationship going. I'm so tired of settling for mediocrity and moving nowhere in terms of trying to get a relationship and build my self-esteem up from that. The most powerful self-esteem builder for me would be knowing that someone else sees in me what I don't see in myself (a person who is worthy of a relationship). I feel like I must not be worthy because I've never had one. I feel unlovable, almost. The only people who love me for what I am are my psychiatrist and my oncologist because they make money off my health problems. —John Lennon |
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Friday, January 5, 2007 at 5:48 PM having a sucky relationship beats not having one Somehow, this seems like a very poor line of reasoning. —jezebel |
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Friday, January 5, 2007 at 7:25 PM . I'm one of those rare guys that wants a relationship. 1) Not really that rare.
2) Most girls your age aren't looking for a guy that "wants a relationship" they still wanna have fun and party. They don't go for that. You're too nice, it turns them away. —Stryker311 |
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Friday, January 5, 2007 at 8:09 PM Insightful and true. Somehow, this seems like a very poor line of reasoning. I agree - though I understand where he's coming from. If you've never had a relationship - even a crumby one, you're coming from a place of desperation and you feel like it's never gonna happen. It sucks. I feel like I must not be worthy because I've never had one. I feel unlovable, almost. The only people who love me for what I am are my psychiatrist and my oncologist because they make money off my health problems. The tragic irony is that because you see yourself that way, you're setting yourself up to fail. The most powerful self-esteem builder for me would be knowing that someone else sees in me what I don't see in myself That's kinda like thinking that having a baby is going to save a crappy relationship. When you're done, you'll still have the crappy relationship, and you'll have a baby to screw up and to give you more stress. It's good that you're being proactive, but I worry that you're setting yourself up to fail with this deadline. It's a cliche but it's hard for someone to love you if you don't love yourself. In my humble opinion, what you really need are some successes. I've told you this before, but seriously - find something you're good at. Doesn't really matter what it is - just something special that interests you. The important thing is that you can shine at something. You can see that you're doing something well, you get a bit of respect, and your confidence will go up. Magically, you'll eventually find yourself stumbling into a relationship without even trying. Also - don't worry so much or be so hard on yourself. I know that's easy for me to say, but I assure you that as long as you put a little effort into things and you're open, things will work out. Even though it doesn't seem like it now, things will probably happen faster than you're ready for. You're probably not even thinking about this now, but when it does happen (and I am quite confident that it will), you're biggest risk is gonna be going too far too fast and putting up with things that should be deal breakers. You don't have to believe me there, just do yourself a favor and keep what I said in the back of your mind and keep an eye out for things that seem wrong. —anobody |
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Friday, January 5, 2007 at 11:55 PM I don't know how to tell if someone likes me or not or where the line is from "friends" to "relationship". Unfortunately I have learned in the past that the line isn't below waist level! I'm so sick of just being seen by girls who have sex with me as a dick with arms and legs. I AM NOT AN ANIMALLLLLL!
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Friday, January 5, 2007 at 11:56 PM I'm reminded of something Theo said in another thread. —anobody |
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Saturday, January 6, 2007 at 12:09 AM I'm so sick of just being seen by girls who have sex with me as a dick with arms and legs. wtf. what the fuck. go to hell. —Stryker311 |
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anobody |
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Saturday, January 6, 2007 at 12:11 AM I must confess, I've never seen someone work so hard at being unlikable. It's.... unrefreshing. —anobody |
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Saturday, January 6, 2007 at 2:14 AM I'm so sick of just being seen by girls who have sex with me as a dick with arms and legs. I had a little pity for the kid. Now it's more...hmm...disdain? Ugh. —jezebel |
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Saturday, January 6, 2007 at 2:23 AM Being secure in having life beats wondering when you're going to die. Excuse me but as far us I understand it, none of us know when we are going to die. It's a bank account we can only take from and we can never have a look at the balance! Other than that the rest of the stuff you write explains clearly to me why you are not getting a relationship (or even laid) - I'm so sick of just being seen by girls who have sex with me as a dick with arms and legs.
You are either a) a horrible lay, so they don't want to stick around. b) so horribly clingy that you put them off c) a total dickhead who even manages to push the people on the site that support you towards hating your every word.
I preferred you as Drake - I always hated John Lennon.
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Saturday, January 6, 2007 at 2:24 AM Being beaten by one's parents is NEVER a better thing. Rethink that. That was in very bad taste.
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Saturday, January 6, 2007 at 4:28 AM I'm so sick of just being seen by girls who have sex with me as a dick with arms and legs. I AM NOT AN ANIMALLLLLL! See, now I dont buy it. I was with you man, up to that point. I was once so desperate to finally have a relationship, that when I finally got into one, I actually talked myself into putting up with shit that, alot of other people wouldnt have put up with. I allowed myself to look past alot of things, because my reasoning was, hey I may be being used here, but hmmmm am I willing to pay that price in order to feel loved? Yes. So I did. Point is I know where you are coming from, and it seems like getting into a relationship finally will solve so many of your problems, which thus will then allow you to grow and build yourself into what you imagine youd like to be like. It´s not that easy though, because unless the relationship lasts the long haul, what you experience is a false sense of many things, including self worth. The proof of that is that if the relationship crashes and burns, then magically you find yourself feeling just the way you did before the relationship, which could mean that you never really got anywhere in the first place. But your comment there, which Ive heard hundreds of times from internet studs, about how theyve never had a relationship yet they get laid constantly because all of the girls use them for sex practice. "I dont it must be something about me...girls just wanna bang me." BS. Because if that was really the case you would have already formed a relationship with one of the friends of one of the girls whos friends you banged at her cousins house, where you met one of their friends.
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Saturday, January 6, 2007 at 11:22 AM
Edited Saturday, January 6, 2007 at 11:41 AM I know the examples I wrote weren't the best comparison. I wasn't thinking right. I'm sorry Spanglemaker and everybody. I'm just going to listen to some Neil Young and wait for my friend to call and then probably go get smashed. Maybe then I will feel normal. I think I know what I want but I don't know how it will turn out. That's what stops me from pursuing it. Like AC said, if I do and it ends up crashing and burning I'm back where I started. It sucks being hopeful and scared at the same time about a possible relationship, and letting the fear win out so I don't have to get hurt again. I would rather be unhappy on my own than be happy temporarily with someone else and then unhappy again. I feel like if I'm in a relationship then I'd be giving up control of my feelings to her, sort of, and that's the scariest thing about it. I don't know what I should do. Being happy for a while would at least beat out being alone and sad. "This much madness is too much sorrow
It's impossible to make it today." Neil Young —John Lennon |
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Saturday, January 6, 2007 at 12:03 PM They're better than your stupid fuckin' threads about emo looking boys and the fag hags that hang out with them. Or Britney's honey hole pictures, or Nicole Richie's drunk driving arrest, or BS celebrity crap that you seem to hang on like it actually MEANS something, when it really doesn't affect your life in the slightest. I'm going through a lot of shit that other people have gone through and I'm trying to get advice from them so I don't make mistakes, what the fuck are you doing on this site Lena, besides posting rediculous quizzes and boring celebrity news? —John Lennon |
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Saturday, January 6, 2007 at 12:25 PM Lena posts pictures of hot guyz. You are a slob who complains and thinks we care but we don't. I'd rather look at hot guys. —mandeemoo22 |
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Saturday, January 6, 2007 at 12:32 PM I had a little pity for the kid. Now it's more...hmm...disdain? Ugh. That about sums it up right there. Excuse me but as far us I understand it, none of us know when we are going to die. I do, actually. Have my whole life, actually. It'll be 140 MYA in a tragic, but thankfully nearly painless accident involving an Apatosaurus.
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Saturday, January 6, 2007 at 12:42 PM well i can't get any ass either..but you don't see me complaining. i don't understand why you need advice....just be yourself around her, ask her how she really feels about you, and eventually you'll figure out what to do.. it's like making out...nobody can't tell you how to do it..it just comes naturally. —adams_babymomma |
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Saturday, January 6, 2007 at 1:00 PM I know you all think I'm fat and cancerous and all this crap, think of how good you have it. Quoted for mirth. —bguirk |
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Saturday, January 6, 2007 at 4:23 PM i want her hair/body/life. —lexieho |
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Sunday, January 7, 2007 at 9:36 AM when you say 'want', do you mean that you don't want all the things that stop you having that stomach? i don't think you do. how many years past puberty do you have to be before you learn to manage your diet and exercise?
and i'm not having a go at you. ice cream is delicious, and so is strawberry cheesecake.
and the intense pain of working out is horrible. it's almost as bad as the numb cold pain of sitting around too depressed.
maybe you just want to lick his stomach cuz you're a fag. i actually masturbated to a jessica alba photo the other day, for the first time in years. i can't normally get past intensely lovely faces. —MajandraFan |
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Sunday, January 7, 2007 at 10:27 AM ^ wait, you can masturbate to just one photo? i don't understand boys. —lexieho |
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Sunday, January 7, 2007 at 10:32 AM i can't answer that without getting into the kind of gory detail that makes anobody and striker and drake such special, special members of the loveline companion. —MajandraFan |
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Sunday, January 7, 2007 at 12:31 PM Remember when Smaller hands' dad told her that she is the same height, and has the same bra size as jessica alba? —adams_babymomma |
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Sunday, January 7, 2007 at 1:41 PM No, but there is if you don't find Mia Farrow in Rosemary's Baby or Angelina Jolie hot. Or Goldie Hawn on Laugh-In. Fucking pixie haircuts are hot. If I was Peter Pan I would bang Tinkerbell, that's how hot I think pixie haircuts are. —John Lennon |
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Sunday, January 7, 2007 at 3:58 PM
Edited Sunday, January 7, 2007 at 3:58 PM You're getting me confused with HTGIO, how dare you Lizmuffins. —John Lennon |
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Sunday, January 7, 2007 at 4:08 PM John Lennon, dont take that shit. That was a direct personal attack. Smack that ass up. When you are done with Tortalini yawnt be takin no more guff from the lady types. Before you know it you will be getting personal PMs from TortillaFabrica about exchanging phone numbers and what you. And what not. —AbsolutCarib |
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Sunday, January 7, 2007 at 4:25 PM Exactly. She's into the rough trade. —anobody |
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Sunday, January 7, 2007 at 6:30 PM ^ you guys suck, is majandrafan awake yet? he's been sleeping for like six and a half hours, maybe like 1:30pm. —lexieho |
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Sunday, January 7, 2007 at 10:28 PM you have a boner for amanda bynes in she's the man, admit it. —Queen TortillaFactory —Dusty TheHick |
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Monday, January 8, 2007 at 11:37 PM I don't find Jessica that attractive for some reason, is there something wrong with me? yes, very wrong actually. Like not liking hamburgers or something.
you have a boner for amanda bynes in she's the man, admit it.
psh, I do, and I'll admit it, she's fucking hott. It's just her weirdo attitude that turns me off.
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Tuesday, January 9, 2007 at 12:12 AM Amanda Bynes is the shit. If you don't like her, commit suicide, bitches. —greymatters |
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Tuesday, January 9, 2007 at 12:14 AM I don't really have any opinions on her. Should I just cut myself? —mandeemoo22 |
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Friday, January 12, 2007 at 12:37 PM I do remember, Lena. I do, of course I do. Your question is a memory too. Spiralling into sadness. —MajandraFan |
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