Wednesday, August 16, 2006 at 10:23 PM As a marriage counselor for 23 years, I was appalled that Kevin would negatively judge the woman who was going to masturbate for a group of men. First, many, many couples, once they honestly communicate, can engage in all kinds of forms of sexual expression and remain great partners for decades. (I am not recommending dishonest cheating, but I am saying that polyamorous relationships can easily work.) Second, to impunge the boyfriend's sexuality is ridiculous. As Camilia Paglia put it, men who want to gangbang a woman no more "really" want to screw each other than men who hunt together "really" want to shoot each other. (Dick Cheney excepted.) Third, it is hard enough to get couples to fully express their sexuality, and then cooperatively act on it, without ANY "judgment" coming from the raging prudery of a "celebrity." PLEASE. I have saved marriage after marriage by helping people to accept polyamorous solutions to otherwise mis-matched sexuality. (Many, many societies do this. Just read Big Trouble by John Lukas and see that in Boise Idaho a century ago, most of the town's business took place in the main brothel -- a polyamorous solution to overworked, overly-pregnant wives.) I repeat. PLEASE do not dump the conventional insecurities of those who have turned their fear and childhood shame into "rules" that stifle everyone else. Thanks! —hydrahed |
