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Tuesday, June 7, 2005 at 5:55 PM If you have sex with a girl on the first date (at her place), and she kicks you out early in the morning because she has a date later that afternoon, do you call her back the next day? Or do you wait to hear back from her? I have a feeling someone on Sex In The City said that guys should always call the girl back the next day after a sex on the first date incident. So, my inclination would be that all etiquette aside, that's a bad idea. —ZT-In-Exile |
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Tuesday, June 7, 2005 at 6:08 PM I would call her the next day just to see what's up and show her you're interested, but not be pushy..try to feel her out and see whether or not she wants to see you again. —chix0r |
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Tuesday, June 7, 2005 at 6:16 PM You mean she's still alive? 'Cuz I would've buried her remains in the walls long before morning came arou-- Err, nevermind. —Dark Laith |
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Tuesday, June 7, 2005 at 6:24 PM Did this happen to you? —mandeemoo22 Yes. I would call her the next day just to see what's up and show her you're interested, but not be pushy..try to feel her out and see whether or not she wants to see you again. —chix0r That's probably what I would have done if I knew that she wasn't seeing another guy a few hours after I left. I appreciated her honesty about it , not that she had to tell me to begin with. But it also made me wonder about her... Well, I felt a little slighted and didn't feel like talking to her, eventhough I liked her and I didn't think she planned it nefariously. —ZT-In-Exile |
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Tuesday, June 7, 2005 at 6:27 PM I can understand where you're coming from, but I can see her side, too. It was just your first date; it's perfectly acceptable that she had one planned for the next day. Maybe she liked you so much that she wanted to fuck you, but she wasn't so head-over-heels that she was ready to go monogamous after the first date. —chix0r |
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Tuesday, June 7, 2005 at 6:33 PM I'd wait a two days at the least. Seems kind of odd to plan a date in the afternoon with someone else, but whatever. Give it at least 24 hours. —Hashmeer Shashmeer |
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Tuesday, June 7, 2005 at 6:33 PM You mean she's still alive? 'Cuz I would've buried her remains in the walls long before morning came arou--Err, nevermind.—Dark Laith GD Laith, you crack me up! If a girl kicks you out early in the morning to have another date in the afternoon, then you LOSE HER PHONE NUMBER ON PURPOSE... ...PERMANENTLY! —Narcissus |
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Tuesday, June 7, 2005 at 6:43 PM
Edited Tuesday, June 7, 2005 at 6:43 PM God, I hope you were wearing some protection for your sake. There's nothing wrong with her having a full social calendar, but combine that with her giving it up so quickly and you've got a recipe for the ‘itchies.’ Plus the fact that she had to make sure you knew she had another date coming over - rather than just saying something along the lines of having plans or whatever - makes it seem like she's got a little need for the chaos. It's one of those things people couch as "I should be honest about everything" when it's really "I need to stir the pot a little." Did she by any chance have one of those "take a number" ticket signs outside her front door? Call her if you want more of the same, but I wouldn't take her too seriously. Doesn't sound like someone you want too get attached to, but it could still be good times. —Beat It! |
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Tuesday, June 7, 2005 at 6:55 PM I agree with Beat It. Sometimes its just better to lie. Or maybe she just told you that because she thought that you would think she's too trashy and she didn't want you to call her. —mandeemoo22 |
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Tuesday, June 7, 2005 at 7:05 PM Did she by any chance have one of those "take a number" ticket signs outside her front door?—Beat It! Now serving number 279! —Narcissus |
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Tuesday, June 7, 2005 at 8:28 PM I read your post on your LJ, before you deleted it ZT, you are overreacting on a lot of different levels, in my opinion. I never thought you’d be so clingy, especially with just having sex with a chick you picked up at a club. You guys did the “deal-breaker” talk in the morning, and to me that is just infatuation, I really expected better of you, I must say I’m a little disappointed. Just the thought of that long ago infatuation/immature period of my life where we had “deal-breaker” talks makes me want to vomit, but the fact that you guys did that talk after a first time meet, then sex, just spells trouble, and it’s a little bit pushy. Kind of like if the chick had started pushing family and marriage, and meeting her parents. Don’t call her back at all, she’s chaos and trouble. Don’t be jealous or angry that she had a date the next day, has nothing to do with you, has to do with what she was looking for. If she was looking for something more than just a fling, and she was into you, then she would have canceled, and that would have been that. So many different variables here, it’s hard to follow them all. Most of all though, you’ve got to ask yourself why you’re all of a sudden letting this bother you. Stinks of the beginning of co-dependent relationship, or a co-dependent person.
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Tuesday, June 7, 2005 at 9:02 PM Reading half the replys, I say that I agree that etiquette would demand a call the day after in normal circumstances, but the fact that she stated to you, not to mention is the reason for kicking you out, that she has another date would mean to me...I aint calling at all until she calls and makes it clear she still wants to see me. —Ovid |
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Tuesday, June 7, 2005 at 10:33 PM I never thought you’d be so clingy, especially with just having sex with a chick you picked up at a club... I really expected better of you, I must say I’m a little disappointed... Most of all though, you’ve got to ask yourself why you’re all of a sudden letting this bother you. Stinks of the beginning of co-dependent relationship, or a co-dependent person. —Masteel There was more to the first part of the story that I left out, but none of it really changed the score. Everything you're saying is good, and are things that I've more or less thought of. The way things are going it does sound like bad news. I have a way of finding myself on the edge of situations that I know are going to be bad, and going ahead anyways. Though, some over analysis has gotten me to talk myself out of good things before. Another date or two won't hurt, I'm going to be better about keeping my boundaries and end things one way or another if they don't seem to be getting less retarded. God, I hope you were wearing some protection for your sake. There's nothing wrong with her having a full social calendar, but combine that with her giving it up so quickly and you've got a recipe for the ‘itchies.’ —Beat It! I think I just have a way of bringing it out in them. By 'it' I mean mace, of course. And, yes, there was plenty of latex on my pee pee. May *I* have her number? —Dusty TheHick (303)866-1010, if she answers impersonating a male voice and says "Denver Secret Service" just play along, she's kinky like that. —ZT-In-Exile |
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Tuesday, June 7, 2005 at 10:37 PM Are you really that concerned about "etiquette" with a girl that put out on the first date? I agree with most of the above posts. This girl was looking for her fix, she got it, and if you're content with a "friends with benefits" situation then she'll do just fine. Otherwise, this one isn't exactly a candidate for marriage or anything even resembling a real relationship for that matter. I'm just sayin' —Drew, Please |
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Tuesday, June 7, 2005 at 11:17 PM ZT--This happened to me a million years ago and while it's shocking because you weren't expecting this it doesn't mean she's a slut or doing you wrong. Chix0r's vibe on it is probably the right one. If you like her just give her a call and tell her what you want and see if she's into it . The only thing I'd advise beyond that is don't agree to something where you're on unequal footing--like if you really like her and are exclusive to her while she's out there potentially dating a bunch of people deciding if she wants to be exclusive. That can be excruciating. Be honest with yourself. Congrats on getting laid BTW. —bguirk |
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Wednesday, June 8, 2005 at 5:15 AM I can't believe kids these days, sex on the first date! I've never heard of such a thing. —oh-for |
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Thursday, June 9, 2005 at 7:34 PM I can't believe kids these days, sex on the first date! I've never heard of such a thing. —oh-for Hey, man...if it weren't for sex on the first date, I'd probably still be a virgin. —Dusty TheHick |
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Friday, June 10, 2005 at 4:45 AM Now I know this is hard to believe, but, I don't even kiss on the first date. OK, it's out there. Really. I think it MAY have happened once when I was really, really drunk. A friend of mine is known for his escapades on first dates. We call it, "pulling a Jim." Not you Dustman, another Jim. Second date is game on. —oh-for |
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Friday, June 10, 2005 at 9:28 AM ZT--This happened to me a million years ago and while it's shocking because you weren't expecting this it doesn't mean she's a slut or doing you wrong. Chix0r's vibe on it is probably the right one. If you like her just give her a call and tell her what you want and see if she's into it. The only thing I'd advise beyond that is don't agree to something where you're on unequal footing--like if you really like her and are exclusive to her while she's out there potentially dating a bunch of people deciding if she wants to be exclusive. That can be excruciating. Be honest with yourself. —bguirk You right, I think I might have rushed to judgement a little to quick on her. The second date went well. We'll see how things go. —ZT-In-Exile |
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Friday, June 10, 2005 at 2:30 PM Does that come before or after the dry anal copulation? —clodhopper |
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Friday, June 10, 2005 at 5:37 PM
Edited Friday, June 10, 2005 at 5:37 PM Ha ha! Bukkake is in wikipedia!
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